Friday, August 1, 2014

Expectations

Expectation

a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future.
a belief that someone will or should achieve something.
one's prospects of inheritance.

Expectation, an idea with anticipation of a certain result, can be very exiting and allow us to feel good about something to come.

Today I heard thunder and saw lightning so I was left with an expectation of rain.  I was very happy in my short wait, where I live it hardly rains. I like the rain and the fact that it cleanses and brings life.  When it rained My expectation was fulfilled and me too for that matter.  It was awesome, I got rained on a little on the way to my truck.  It cooled things off and felt nice.  My expectation fulfilled in a very pleasing manner.

Many of us have expectations for a number of things.  Often when our expectations are met we are fulfilled, happy or elated!! This is normal and healthy.

Sometimes we voice our expectation to another and they in turn let us know whether or not our desire can be met.  That is normal and healthy communication. Communicating our Expectation and then receiving what we wish for can be wonderful. Or even knowing that what we want can not happen is good we can then adjust our expectation to a more feasible or reasonable wish that can be achieved.

At times we have expectations of others that, for some odd reason, we don't communicate.  

These unspoken desires or anticipated outcomes can often be met leaving us feeling good. 
A gamble with our intentions? Our well being?

What if those unmentioned expectations are not met?  Well, that could lead to disappointment, frustration even anger and resentment.  Not very healthy probably not normal but unfortunately socially acceptable.

When we have expectations of others that we neglect to communicate we set our selves up for disappointment and failure.  You know what they say about assuming ass u me "makes an ass of you and me".  Certainly the expecting individual can be left without a desired outcome.

A less than desired outcome can be devastating for some.

If you want something from a friend or loved one and don't let them know how can they satisfy your desire?

Think about this.  How many times have you heard "Well I expected.......".  Did you communicate your need?  Were you disappointed when it wasn't met?

Setting yourself up for failure!  Very good to facilitate a victim consciousness. Probably not healthy or normal.  We need not be victims.
We do need to communicate our expectations for there to be an opportunity of  desired result.

Communication will allow you to never be a victim to expectations not met!!!

We are creating our reality with our thoughts, words and actions.  We are Co-Creators of our life and reality.  We are responsible for our lives.  We can be happy and all of our, reasonable, expectations can be met.  

If you want or need something, no matter what it is, expression of expectation is needed. That is communication and is healthy and normal. 
Please let someone know what you expect so that they can come through for you or at least let you know that they might not be able to and then come to an agreeable outcome for both!

Lovingly ask for what you need!  
When asked for something, lovingly and honestly respond!

LOVE

1 comment:

Rev. Irene Windhorse said...

So true, and voicing our expectations is our part of the Responsibility for our personal happiness and evolutionary communication.~~Windhorse